Right. So now we've established a few key elements here.
So far, we've figured out what the first step is -- getting over your ex. Yeah, it's tough. And I'm willing to bet that 99% of you aren't going to follow my advice because you won't be able to resist. But I am telling you, it is proven that if you constantly bug and pester your ex into getting back together with you, you are just going to push him or her further and further away.
So before you try and make your else fall in love with you, you're going to have to get over your ex.
I know it doesn't even "feel" right to not talk to your ex -- after all, how the heck are you going to convince your ex that he or she made a mistake without even talking to them? Simple: actions speak louder than words, my friend! Or rather, inaction.
See, right now your ex is actually expecting you to pester him or her. They still want to know that you want them because, frankly, human beings want to be flattered. But you have to take your mind off them ASAP.
Here are some ways to do this (though, I warn you, this isn't going to be easy. But it'll get easier and easier everyday):
1.) Pick up a hobby -- yes, you probably never thought about this yet, but picking up a new hobby can be a great way to take your mind off your ex. Is there something you really want to do? Play the drums? Go canoeing? Go for it!
2.) Join a charity organization -- volunteer work can be extremely satisfying. There's nothing like giving a helping hand to someone. And does karma actually exist? Debatable, but doing charity work is proven to work wonders psychologically, and you will meet a bunch of great people along the way.
3.) Do more work -- it's probably the last thing you want to do right now, I get it, but 5 months down the road, you are going to be kicking yourself for getting yourself down in the dumps. Now is the best time to concentrate on something meaningful. Is there something you could do extra at work? Could you be doing something that's advancing your career? Are you in school and could you do something extra? If you can channel all that negative energy into something like work, you'll be way better off. I guarantee it.
4.) Hang out with your friends -- This is the easiest way to take your mind off your ex. Play some videogames with your friends, go out dancing, go out for some dinner. Play Scrabble with them. Do anything with them. If they're good friends they'll keep your mind off him or her in no time.
5.) Meet other people -- join a club or a fun class and meet other people! Meeting new people won't completely replace the void of your ex (though, it might), but it's great fun. And who knows, maybe you'll meet someone better!
6.) GO OUT ON DATES! This is the most important step. I know you probably don't want to, but if you can, try and go on some dates! You will be blown away by how much fun you'll have. Dating is a fun way to increase your confidence (and I guarantee you, your confidence level right now is much lower than it should be). So go online dating or to the club! Maybe even the frozen section of the grocery!
7.) Read a book -- Yes, reading not only is productive, but fun. Pick up a book you've always wanted to read and just sit down and read it. You'll thank yourself later.
8.) Be active and exercise! Exercising has been proven to increase your dopamine and serotonin levels -- the chemicals responsible for making you feel happy. Instead of turning to drugs an alcohol, go out on a run or go out biking. You'll feel better after, guaranteed.
I know these tips kind of seen like they're pointless, but they're aboslutely not. You have to learn how to get over your ex and control your emotions before you even think about how to message your ex and how to make your ex want to meet you.
In conclusion, you have to focus on distracting yourself. If you want to learn some of the best ways to forget your ex (while getting their attention at the same time and making them WANT to contact you), then you've got to watch this video by relationship expert Brad Browning. In this video, he unveils the 7 psychological secrets that you must employ during the "no contact" phase to ensure that your ex begins to think about you and love you again!
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